be our guest | pt. i

the very first birthday.

IMG_0093.jpg

This post was originally written in early May 2017.  our little boy, Greyson, turned a year old on April 27th.  as is my tendency when it comes to blogging, I composed this post soon after, but never got around to publishing.  when I decided to share some of my favorite hosting tips + tricks, as well as children's birthday party ideas, I thought it may be best to start at the beginning—with the very first birthday party we ever hosted.  the remainder of this post will be written from my point of view nearly three years ago as we gathered to celebrate our first little boy turning one!


IMG_6664.jpg

Our first baby turned a year old at the end of April.  it was the wildest, most bittersweet thing... they always say that time goes by quickly and I knew this to be true from my experience nannying; but even still, it seems like it happened in the blink of an eye.  one day, I was riding home from the hospital in the back seat next to our fresh, seven pound newborn, laughing at my overly-cautious husband.  and the next, we had a spirited one-year-old, waddling through the house, giggling and getting into everything.    

in this post, I want to share a few birthday party ideas.  I want to remind you [and myself] that less is more.  I did stress myself out over this party, but that had less to do with the actual party + preparation and more to do with us trying to install butcher block countertops + a new backsplash in five days leading up to the party.  but that's another post.  I would be lying if I said my hair wasn't still wet when the first guests arrived and the cake had yet to be frosted.  and when my mother arrived and I informed her of this, she responded, "seriously?"  naturally, I burst into tears as I bustled through the house, tweaking last-minute things.  some of the stress was due to my perfectionism.  some of it to realizing that my baby wasn't a baby anymore.  some of it was because I am emotional by nature, and I have to think the pregnancy hormones didn't help much.

but as I rushed around, getting things ready, I couldn't help but think that the old adage is true: less is more.  the party came and went.  it was such a sweet time and I forgot all about the things I didn't finish.  and that's one of the best parts and secrets—no one knows what you didn't do or finish or what didn't go according to plan unless you tell them. what mattered most was that all our family and friends were there to celebrate with us and the little boy who has brought us so much joy.

IMG_6677.jpg

the theme

I am not exactly sure what one would describe the theme of this party.  it had a bit of a farm feeling to it, with the animals and pops of red. the only thing I actually knew when I started brainstorming party ideas was that I wanted baby animals on the cake. I shared this idea with my incredibly gifted artist-sister and she created an [absolutely precious] original watercolor that I then had printed onto the invitations.

IMG_0146.jpg
IMG_0138.jpg

the menu

The party began at 10 o'clock, so naturally the menu was light.  it included a fruit + cheese spread, a vegetable tray, a bowl of mixed nuts, in addition to the tried-and-true party favorites: cake and ice-cream. preparing a charcuterie board has become one of my favorite things to do when playing hostess. one thing I love about it is how beautiful and fresh it looks, but the other thing I love is how easy it is. this is a great thing to put on your party menu as it is both budget friendly and easy to assemble. I highly recommend!

IMG_0083.jpg
IMG_0081.jpg
IMG_0145.jpg
IMG_0144.jpg

For my beverage station, I served lemonade, sweet tea, and water in carafes from the Target dollar spot.  two silver teacups held fresh sliced strawberries and lemons for those wanting to add a little something extra to their drink.  this great beverage dispenser from Walmart held ice water and played well into the farm-party feeling.  red + white paper straws have been a favorite of mine ever since our wedding reception.  the ice bucket is from TJ Maxx and the old wooden box is a treasure I've gathered along the way.

IMG_0080.jpg
IMG_6671.jpg

And now for the details on the cake! it may sound like it was homemade since I frosted it myself, but it is actually a simple round cake from a local grocery store bakery. I asked for three plain round cakes. if I remember correctly, they cost about $9ish a layer. the lady in the bakery was hesitant to sell this to me for whatever reason; but after I assured her it was really what I wanted, she reluctantly pulled three out of the freezer and sold them to me. I let them thaw overnight in the refrigerator and then, as I mentioned earlier, frosted them as the guests were arriving. and yes, I suppose you could say poor time management has always been my thing.

my favorite little party detail is what I used to top the cake. I ordered a few Schleich animals from amazon and used them as my cake toppers. I made a miniature pennant banner and miniature party hats for the animals the night before the party. the miniature cake came from Hobby Lobby in the dollhouse section. I had just planned on the animals + banner at first, but it seemed odd for them to be sitting atop the cake with no dessert themselves. can you tell I overthink—I mean—put a lot of thought into this stuff?

another little tip I’d like to share is my source for paper products + napkins. this is by no means groundbreaking and I cannot be the only person who takes advantage of this, but I always get all my disposable serveware—plates, cups, napkins, cutlery [if I’m using plastic]—from Dollar Tree. while I do love pretty party plates and napkins, I am fairly practical [a nice change for me] when it comes to this aspect of hosting, as far as birthday parties go. for dinner parties, by all means, break out your finest [in my case: thrift store] china!

since I know all of the little plates filled with cake and ice cream remnants will be thrown away in a matter of minutes, I can’t bring myself to pay more than a couple bucks for a pack of plates or napkins. I typically buy simple white plates, but I’ve also bought red and yellow before. if you just can’t bear the thought of solid plates or napkins from Dollar Tree, TJ Maxx and HomeGoods have some great, reasonably priced options. I’d check there before going to a party supply store as they tend to be a bit pricier, in my experience.

and that about wraps up this sweet little first birthday party! I don’t have a photograph, but I parked the little red wagon Greyson had gotten for Christmas in front of our fireplace and the gifts were placed there.

IMG_0092.jpg

and now I’m writing from the year 2020…

it’s funny [and by funny, I mean humbling] to look back and see how far we [I] have come. strictly aesthetically speaking, I’m pleased with this party overall. however, I can tell my skills as a hostess have improved, as well as my time management. all my teachers in high school would be so proud, if only they knew. I hope you enjoyed this post! maybe it will inspire you as you plan a party or serve as a reminder to have the cake put together well before your guests arrive.

stay tuned for a post about Grey’s second birthday celebration. here’s a little hint regarding the theme: it was a ball.


Drew.

I am not one to boast, especially on social media; however, his birthday seemed like just the occasion to honor and introduce you to the man behind the tiny white house. he’s the one who makes it all happen, the one who brings my vision to life.

AW-5577.jpg

image by Emily Green


My husband Drew is one of the kindest souls I've ever known.  he always gives the benefit of the doubt and sees the best in people.  if ever I am venting about another human, he is quick to suggest what they may have been thinking or where they may have been coming from.  it is so irritating.  he never assumes the worst in situations or of others.  in fact, we often refer to him as "Defender of the Weak/Week."  he has always been this way, ever since we became friends when he was sixteen years old.  of the two of us, he is definitely "the nice one."

IMG_8921.jpg

minutes after we welcomed our first child to the world


Another cool/annoying thing about Drew is that he is brilliant.  let me put this into perspective for you: he scored a 32 on his ACT.  for those unfamiliar with the ACT, it is an entrance exam used by most colleges to make admissions decisions, with a test score range of 1-36.  according to the statistics, a score of 32 places him in the 98th percentile. I, who am a little older and much wiser [I do have more life experience, after all], did not make a 32.  I will not be disclosing my score, but suffice it to say: I was accepted into college and that alone was my goal.

he's kind of a know-it-all.  well, he used to be.  he still knows a lot, but I "helped" him to possess his knowledge in a more humble way.  for any other know-it-alls reading this, the first thing you need to know [or should already if you do, in fact, know everything] is that know-it-alls are obnoxious.  if someone informs you of something, almost anything is a better response than, "I know."  Drew would say this phrase so often, driving me mad, that I created a little exercise for him.  if I told him something and he responded with, "I know," whether he knew or not, I would make him recite the phrase: "I don't know everything."  repeatedly.  because you know what?  it's true.  nobody knows everything.  and you know what else?  he has learned to respond more humbly with an "oh really?" or "that's interesting."

AW-5039.jpg

image by Emily Green


In addition to his intelligence, Drew is an incredible musician.  I know it seems like I'm biased, but really and truly, he is completely gifted.  his first love is the drums.  he began playing when he was just four years old.  (he learned from his dad, a fellow drummer).  as a teen, he learned to play the acoustic guitar.  as a twentysomething, he conquered the bass and electric; and finally, the piano.  he doesn't sing often, or in public anyway, but he also has a nice voice.  we enjoy making music together, though all I bring to the table is my voice and sick dance moves.  since he was thirteen years old, he has served in our church in some musical capacity.  the neatest thing about Drew and his talent is that he is completely humble.  if I was a rock star and played forty-seven instruments like him, you better believe I'd be shouting it from the rooftops.  Drew is not this way.  where he once lacked humility as a former know-it-all, he has never lacked anything as a musician.

IMG_4860.jpg

moments before the birth of our second child


We make quite a pair for many reasons.  I am a dreamer; he is a realist.  I like to create, whether it's drawing or painting or building.  simply put, he does not.  but he does it anyway for me.  he's a numbers guy and majored in accounting.  I don't do numbers.  like ever, at all.  I once said that if the wires in my brain to compute mathematics do, in fact, exist, they are not connected.  not even close.  Drew says that he sees + thinks in numbers and that I see + think in colors.  the most ironic thing?  Drew is colorblind.  we are literally speaking completely different languages.  we are opposite in so many ways, but have the important things in common...  our beliefs, our goals, our dreams, our faith.

his life has not always been easy—by my standards.  he's weathered divorce, the loss of his mother, and losing his home + virtually all his earthly possessions in a flood, all before he was even twenty-four years old.  but he's so full of joy and hope, you'd never guess it.

drewandamy.jpg

image by Allison Moix


It's fun being married to him.  he's loving and spoils me in unconventional ways, like a coffee cup filled with ice cream before bed.  it's the darnedest thing, but it just tastes better when he fixes it. he dances with me in the kitchen, the way my father always has, and he makes me laugh like you wouldn't believe. he's an amazing father and loyal friend.  he loves our boys and they are crazy about him.  he’s a hard worker, and very rarely, if ever, does he complain.  every time I observe this quality of his, I make a point to be more like him.  I'm still working on it, obviously.  he never asks for anything and doesn't want much… except a nice guitar and set of drums and to move to the country.

I’m so grateful that the Lord saw fit for us to be together and that He chose me for Drew. he loved + pursued me despite my being a young, insecure girl who didn’t know who she was, and he helped me to find myself + follow my dreams. a true picture of the gospel. I’m still not certain why our parents let us get married since we were just a couple of dumb kids, but I sure am glad they did.

happy birthday to my man. you are so worth celebrating.

Willis Couple Shots-71-4.jpg

image by Allison Moix


images by:

Emily Green of Emily Green Photography
Allison Moix of Stellar Propeller Studio
my personal collection